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Bridesmaid etiquette: how many is too many, and who should you ask?

Is the value of your bridal party greater than the sum of its parts?

We know, we know – for a wedding, most brides want to make sure that everyone nearest and dearest to them are included.

One of the old mainstay conventions is to have the number of bridesmaids in accordance to how large your wedding is; one bridesmaid per 50 guests is one practical ratio. Another rule of thumb is to match the number of groomsmen that the groom will be having, but as always, these rules are flexible.

Bridesmaid etiquette: how many is too many, and who should you ask?

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The US model sees more than three bridesmaids as the norm. In Birmingham, Alabama, there’s a 26 percent chance that there will be seven bridesmaids, and in Charleston, South Carolina, there’s an average of five bridesmaids. While such figures haven’t been crunched in Australia (yet), from anecdotal evidence numbers do fluctuate. We all have been to a wedding where there have been four, five or more bridesmaids (or for some of us, been part of the bridal party) but just gauging responses within the Vogue offices about how many bridesmaids are too many, it seems clear that the general consensus that there is a fine line between an appropriate number and what is considered just too much. As well as the practical arrangements of having to co-ordinate the schedules of multiple people, there are also more simple issues such as there being too many attendants to fit during the ceremony or in photos.

While you might want to include more than the standard, remember, the more bridesmaids there are, the more complications arise (if so, then readthis). Have a look at who you’ve chosen to see if they will actually get on with each other. There may be one person who doesn’t sit well in the mix, or may be better value as a guest – completely fine, and chances are she would appreciate not being asked either so you’re in the clear. Or, other close friends can work just as well in other aspects of the wedding, such as the master of ceremonies. And factor in their lifestyles as well; the friend who lives overseas or who has just given birth is probably not the most practical of choices for a bridesmaid.

With selection, now is the time to tread carefully. You can take the route of choosing someone to represent each part of your life – a member of your family like a sister or a cousin, someone from your childhood, and etc. Most reasonable people are understanding of the conundrum of this selection process. If they’re not, find new friends. (We’re kidding! Not really.) Don’t pick someone because you’re guilted into it. Easier said than done we know, but stay strong! If it’s a family situation where someone is insisting to include a sister/cousin/future sister-in-law, it may be better to include them so as not to make a bigger statement of rejection than initially intended. The final rule to keep in mind? Ask yourself if the addition or absence of this person in your wedding party will add to your day or take away from it.

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MY WIFE WAS ASKED TO BE A BRIDESMAID IN A WEDDING ON MY BIRTHDAY

Nothing brings out the ugly in people like family functions—specifically, weddings and funerals.

A Reddit user, who we’ll call “Sam,” turned to the message board for advice regarding his sister-in-law’s forthcoming nuptials. The sister-in-law, who we’ll call “Alice,” is preparing to tie the knot in Milan, Italy. Naturally, she asked her sister, Sam’s wife, to be a bridesmaid. Unfortunately, the trip falls on the weekend of Sam’s 30th birthday and even worse, he’s not invited. Oh yeah, his wife is considering accepting Alice’s bridesmaid invitation. Sam explains:

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My wife told me a couple of days ago her sister would be getting married on the weekend of my 30th birthday, on the other side of the world. I will have to stay home, alone, with our toddler for a week taking care of him. Alone. I’m pretty deeply upset she is even considering being a part of this.

Apparently, it’s no surprise to Sam that Alice blacklisted him from attending her wedding because they have never gotten along.

Her sister has always had it out for me since the beginning of our relationship (8yrs). She is a doctor and looks down on any and all people who don’t have MD’s and JD’s. She tried to break apart our relationship in all stages but because my wife and I have a great relationship and her and her sister do not, these attempts have always been brushed off as being sourced in her superficiality.

According to Sam, he’s welcome to join his wife in Italy, but he’ll have to do something to occupy himself during the ceremony because he’s not welcome. And while funding his wife’s trip to Milan would put somewhat of a strain on their finances, it’s not completely impossible. However, it will mean sacrificing his birthday vacation that they planned together.

I’m not invited. I was told I “could” come to Italy but have nothing to do with the wedding aka, take care of the kiddo and generally be alone. No thanks. My wife doesn’t want to fly for 18ish hours alone with our son so I will be home alone with a 2 year old on my 30th birthday. No family or friends in our area (rural) we are a very strong family unit and last year for her 30th birthday we all went to Hawaii. Her going to Milan would be the budget we had planned for my birthday vacation (far more modest- a weekend driving getaway to a NP).

She thinks I’m overreacting and should respect “her family” despite them showing me absolutely none. Am I that wrong to be upset about this?

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カテゴリー: wedding | 投稿者bestlook 12:20 | コメントをどうぞ